Networking Like A Real Boss

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    October 12, 2018
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Become Phenomenal at Standing Out, Be the Best You in the Room!

Networking can be very challenging to people. For women, speaking from experience we overthink when it comes to meeting new people, or not knowing anyone in the room. 

When deciding what networking events to attend, think about the purpose and know that your time is valuable. You want to make the most of it. If you are a doctor and want to open your own practice go to events that will help you get there faster. TIP: The purpose of networking is to expand your sphere of influence and meet people who can assist you in getting to your goal faster, not for you to be an expert in everything. It’s equivalent to reading a book; you gain years of experience from reading from an expert. TIP: Also networking is about giving as well. Figure out what your strengths are and your values, you have them, and can offer those to the people you meet, it’s a two-way street! 

Be confident

No matter where you go or what you have on. You made it to the event, so there is no turning back now. 

When you get there, sometimes to make yourself comfortable, go to the restroom and check yourself out. Trust me you won’t be the only on doing this. Give yourself reassurance that this is fun and you will meet the right people for you. 

Scan the room, check out who’s friendly and smiling at you. Introduce yourself and let them know why you are there, or how you found out about the event. 

This next step is so very crucial, to get that person talking, ask them about themselves!!! This is how we get stuck, thinking we are the only ones who have to talk. Ask them their name if they didn’t introduce themselves, guess what they may also be nervous if they came alone. Ask them how did they learn about the event, and what they do. Be genuinely interested. Listen, ask questions, comment, laugh and relax. 

Guess what if that conversation didn’t work out move on to the next person, it’s probably a room full of people. 

Networking is not about getting rid of your business cards and selling to everyone you meet. Let’s break down the word NET- WORKING 


To receive by way of profit, to produce by way of profit, to get possession of: a net amount, profit, weight, or price, something made of net: such as a device for catching fish, birds, or insects 


To perform or carry through a task requiring sustained effort or continuous repeated operations: to exert oneself physically or mentally especially in sustained effort for a purpose or under compulsion or necessity: to produce a desired effect or result: succeed

To greet and talk within a friendly way in order to ingratiate oneself or achieve a purpose

The word NETWORKING tells you exactly what to do: Catch something that can profit.

Exert physical and mental effort for a PURPOSE under NECESSITY to PRODUCE a DESIRE or RESULT to SUCCEED. You will have to greet and talk FRIEDNLY (we have to remind ourselves people like friendly, likeable) to gain favor or acceptance to achieve purpose. This has to be genuine, and being your best self is the way to do this. You won’t click with everyone you meet, but the ones that love you and appreciate you, work it and create results! 

Shaniese Ruffin

Shaniese Ruffin is the Founder of Discover Your Best Self. For the past three years this has been a vision of hers to bring together women across multi-generations and cultures; to learn and stimulate each other together; an act of power that will impact our and others’ lives!

Shaniese Ruffin is a Realtor and a woman in business, Shaniese understands how hard it is to succeed, that’s why she writes articles to help others and to empower women all around.

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2 thoughts on “Networking Like A Real Boss

  1. This was a great read Shaniese. It is amazing what women can do if they step out of the box and put themselves in positions to excel. I love to network. Living in the 4th largest city, there are various organizations that have great networking events. I’m in the non profit realm and have run across many people interested in my work with girls. It is amazing what networking has done for my organization.

    1. LaNetta, absolutely. There is so much to do in Houston and many people to meet. I would love to know more about your organization and how we can collaborate.

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